Monday, April 11, 2005

Catching up....

Today was my day to catch up on some housework. Vacuuming, laundry, dusting-all that fun stuff. So I thought I would catch up on here too.

This weekend was good. I relaxed around the house, Rick did some yardwork and I watched a couple of movies. I also went to the movies with a friend of mine. We saw Sin City. I kinda liked it, but everyone else I have talked to that has seen it didn't really care for it because of the dialogue/overacting/gore/violence. Keeping with that theme, Rick and I watched Saw this weekend.

I splurged and bought a new wireless keyboard and mouse this weekend. It took a bit of doing to hook it up but I finally got it going. I didn't notice on the box it said for Windows XP only. I found some drivers on the web that work with them so I didn't have to take it back.

Work has been going good. I have been working with a new software program and have been entering data going back to October. It will occupying my time for awhile!

My parents are still upbeat about the appointment they have with a radiologist this week. They are doing the paperwork to get everything started with them.

I talked to my Dad earlier today and found out that my brother is moving back home. This worries and angers me all at once. I haven't spoken to my brother in about 8 years and still don't intend to when/if he moves back.

He is 45 and has never thought of anyone but himself. He married at 17 and has since been married 4 times and at the last count has over 15 kids. He left each one when things got too hard to handle-never taking care of them or the kids that were left behind. He is planning on leaving his current wife with 2 kids because it's too much for him.

I respect their wishes to let him come back home to get back on his feet, and I know they love him as their son. I know they would do the same for me or my sister. But I worry that he sees my parents in a vulnerable state and may try to take advantage of them-that is who he has been in the past that made me lose all respect for him.

I know that my Dad won't let him have but one chance before he would make him leave, but it angers me that they are going to have to deal with this on top of everything else. Me and my sister are hoping that his heart is in the right place and that he will help instead of hurt them-but we keep reminding ourselves of those 15+ children out there that thought the same at one point.

3 comments:

Anonymous said...

Fifteen kids??!!! That borders on criminal! (Don't listen to me -- I'm one of those 'Zero Population Growth' liberals) Your parents don't need that distraction right now. Sorry -- your bro sounds like a heel. Just my opinion. Keep strong and hopeful, Jeff! I'm on your side. Russ

Anonymous said...

My niece didn't have 15--but between the ages of 16 and 20, she did have 4--all by different fathers. The first one, my sister and brother-in-law adopted; the other three, they tried to take care of after they'd already been in foster care for years, and abused. It didn't work. My sister's in poor health, anyway. We haven't heard from my niece in years. I hope not to. I'm a "replacement population growth only" liberal, myself. I'm not so sure that forced sterilization is such a bad thing in certain instances. Sim

Kristeena said...

15?!?! Good grief!! See, this supports my idea of having people temporarily sterilized until they attend parenting courses and get a license to spawn. I'm with you, I'm glad he's got somewhere to go if he needs to, but at some point he'll have to take responsibility, and it doesn't sound like this is a great time for your folks either.

big hugs
=) kris

(still wondering how he keeps finding women to hook up with...I'd run from a man with 15 kids like a cat with its tail on fire.)